Identify warning signs early and build healthier relationships
Flag Tracker is a private reflection tool for adults of every gender. It is for men, women, and people of all genders who want to notice relationship patterns in dating or established relationships. It focuses on observable behavior, impact, repetition, boundaries, and repair, not on judging a person or assigning motives.
Three simple steps to start tracking relationship patterns:
Add Partner A, Partner B, or use anonymous labels to keep things private.
Track red flags, green flags, messages, dates, and all interactions.
View trend lines, balance scores, and identify attachment patterns over time.
74 research-based flags helping you understand patterns that matter. 35 red flags for warning signs and 39 green flags for positive behaviors.
Inconsistent communication, future faking, sudden withdrawal after closeness, contempt, stonewalling, gaslighting.
Repair attempts, emotional availability, stable contact, respectful boundaries, active listening, accountability.
Build your own list based on your personal needs and experiences.
Monitor multiple dating situations privately using acronyms. View statistics, relationship duration, and health scores at a glance.
Record events on a timeline and identify concerning patterns automatically. The app detects post-honeymoon shifts and recurring red flag patterns.
See side-by-side comparisons with visual charts. Compare health scores, flag distributions, and detailed metrics across partners.
74 research-backed indicators categorized for easy browsing. Categorized by communication, respect, boundaries, and more.
Flag Tracker is based on multiple scientific studies from psychology, relationship research, and behavioral science:
Research shows that problematic behavior patterns typically become clearly visible within three months of dating. This tool is designed to help you identify these patterns before the 3-month mark—a time when emotional attachment often makes it harder to see red flags clearly.
30-day free trial with all features. Basic subscription: €3.77/month (VAT included). Cancel anytime.
74 public red and green flag definitions, including gaslighting, love bombing, and accountability.
How the app helps you log warning signs and see whether they become a pattern.
Track the consistent positive behaviors that make a relationship feel safe.
See repeated cycles across time instead of judging a single incident.
A dating-focused overview of warning signs and how Flag Tracker records them.
How to record promises, observable actions, repeated patterns, impact, boundaries, and repair — and decide for yourself what the record means.
What research shows about autism, ADHD and recognizing harmful relationship patterns — and what it does not show.
This app helps identify warning signs in relationships. It is NOT a diagnostic tool and does not replace professional help. If you are experiencing relationship distress, domestic violence, or mental health concerns, please contact qualified professionals.